Tonight, while watching the news, I saw a story about a local bakery in Indianapolis, 111 Cakery, who refused to make a wedding cake for a gay couple. “As artists, we have to find inspiration to create something special for our clients,” said the owner. “When asked to do a cake for an occasion or with a theme that’s in opposition with our faith? It’s just hard for us. We struggle with that. There is zero hate here. This causes us to do a lot of soul searching. Why are we doing what we do? We want to show the love of Christ. We want to be right with our God, but we also want to show kindness and respect to other people.”
Every day, I am still getting tons of emails and messages regarding the Dear Annie letter I wrote about how my life would be affected by a ban on gay marriage. To date, I think the post has received something close to a million views and has been shared all over the place. It is extremely humbly to write a small, blog post and see it spread it’s wings and fly around the world. I’ve always been a believer that as a writer, once I’ve written something and put it out there, how people interpret it or what they do with it is up to them. That being said, to find out that what I’ve written has impacted someone’s beliefs or actions in a positive way is extremely powerful.
On a regular basis, I work with couples who complain that they have “communication” problems. I’m not really sure what this means and in those cases I usually turn them to the book The 5 Love Languages. The sole purpose of this book is to define communication patterns within the relationship; from both members perspectives. It’s amazing and a must for any couple no matter how well you get along. That being said, what people typically mean is that they don’t feel heard or that they argue on a regular basis. In that case, that is a completely different issue with a completely different solution.