Tonight, while watching the news, I saw a story about a local bakery in Indianapolis, 111 Cakery, who refused to make a wedding cake for a gay couple. “As artists, we have to find inspiration to create something special for our clients,” said the owner. “When asked to do a cake for an occasion or with a theme that’s in opposition with our faith? It’s just hard for us. We struggle with that. There is zero hate here. This causes us to do a lot of soul searching. Why are we doing what we do? We want to show the love of Christ. We want to be right with our God, but we also want to show kindness and respect to other people.”
Every day, I am still getting tons of emails and messages regarding the Dear Annie letter I wrote about how my life would be affected by a ban on gay marriage. To date, I think the post has received something close to a million views and has been shared all over the place. It is extremely humbly to write a small, blog post and see it spread it’s wings and fly around the world. I’ve always been a believer that as a writer, once I’ve written something and put it out there, how people interpret it or what they do with it is up to them. That being said, to find out that what I’ve written has impacted someone’s beliefs or actions in a positive way is extremely powerful.
Recently, a client shared that her daughter was doing a Sociology project in high school about same-sex marriage and wanted to know if I would be willing to write down 20 differences between same-sex and heterosexual marriages, not including the given genetic differences, based on the fact that I was gay and married and also worked with both same-sex and heterosexual couples in my practice. I laughed heartily only to find that she didn’t understand why I was so amused. I explained, that having never been in a heterosexual marriage, only having been married to my husband Alex, I couldn’t share my experience in comparison. “But most of your friends are straight couples”, she said, “So surely you must see the differences and similarities between the two groups?” I laughed again. “Please”, she begged. “You would really be helping my daughter and also helping teenagers to be less judemental.” I didn’t have the heart to tell her that teenagers are by in large 90% less judgemental than your average adult neighbor.