Recently, a client shared that her daughter was doing a Sociology project in high school about same-sex marriage and wanted to know if I would be willing to write down 20 differences between same-sex and heterosexual marriages, not including the given genetic differences, based on the fact that I was gay and married and also worked with both same-sex and heterosexual couples in my practice. I laughed heartily only to find that she didn’t understand why I was so amused. I explained, that having never been in a heterosexual marriage, only having been married to my husband Alex, I couldn’t share my experience in comparison. “But most of your friends are straight couples”, she said, “So surely you must see the differences and similarities between the two groups?” I laughed again. “Please”, she begged. “You would really be helping my daughter and also helping teenagers to be less judemental.” I didn’t have the heart to tell her that teenagers are by in large 90% less judgemental than your average adult neighbor.
Since this conversation, I’ve been thinking a lot about the similarities and differences of same-sex and heterosexual couples based on what I’ve seen in my interactions, both socially with our friends, and having worked in m practice for years helping improve both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.
So here it is…A list of 20 Differences Between Same-Sex and Heterosexual Marriages!
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